Men of Iron Podcast

Deescalation | EP. 84

“Emotion and frustration are accelerators of confusion and misinformation.” // Chad Zueck

On EP. 84 of the Men of Iron Podcast Chad talks about deescalation and how we should respond in the middle of relational conflict. How do you handle conflict with a co-worker or with your wife? Do you respond with grace or do you go on the defensive?

In the face of conflict your body responds immediately, your heart rate spikes. You feel a sudden surge of adrenaline. The fight-or-flight response is triggered by the release of hormones that prepare your body to either stay and deal with a threat or to run away to safety.

But, there is a short in the wiring. The bible calls it sin or iniquity. We can be triggered without just cause, and we can trigger others without cause. We often escalate situations because we don’t feel safe, there is an underlying fear. Chad provides practical tips to help you deescalate and resolve conflict with grace in any and every situation.

“Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord.” // Hebrews 12:14, ESV


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Takeaways:

  • EP. 84 we are talking “Deescalation” and how to deescalate ourselves in the middle of relational conflict.
  • So you are at work and a guy gets in your face because of a disagreement, what’s happening at that moment? Or you get in an argument with your wife.
  • Your body responds immediately, your heart rate spikes. You feel a sudden surge of energy (adrenaline).
  • Fight-or-flight? The fight-or-flight response is triggered by the release of hormones that prepare your body to either stay and deal with a threat or to run away to safety.
  • But there is a SHORT in the wiring. The bible calls it sin or iniquity.
    We can be triggered without just cause, and we can trigger others without cause.
  • Why people ESCALATE? Because they don’t feel SAFE. There is an underlying FEAR.
  • What is ESCALATION?
    • Competitive behavior when feeling unsafe or frustrated.
    • Combative behavior when feeling unsafe or frustrated.
  • Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. Hebrews 12:14, ESV
  • What can a man do to deescalate a situation?
    • Ask yourself, “What is the perceived threat or issue?” Is it real or is it EGO?
    • Learn your hot buttons
  • Emotion and frustration are accelerators of confusion and misinformation. ⁣